“Know what you want or you will have to like what you get”. For such a simple quote – it sure held a lot of weight, to think I found it in a fortune cookie!
There’s been a lot going on for Antoine and I recently and it has been really difficult to stay on my toes, however – I am lucky enough to have a great support system around me. It hasn’t been made up of all the people that I would like, but unfortunately in life it’s not always the family and friends you expect to be there that will be. In fact, I have realised the hard way that people would rather tear you down and talk about you behind your back than actually have your back. One thing I would advise about this though – do not let this destroy your character because, truthfully, this says more about them than it does about you.
A few years ago I was someone who would allow negative people to upset me and I would feel like the world was on my shoulders, but like they say “with age comes wisdom”. Instead of letting these people affect me, I just remove negative people from my life. It can be the most painful thing to do sometimes; I’ve cried and had days where I have wanted to hide under the duvet… Up until this morning I wanted to hideaway, then I remembered all the people around me that do radiate positivity and the ones that put up with my crazy ideas, whacky photos and let me film even when they themselves don’t feel like it.
I’m also reminded that we, as human beings, could go so much further if we supported each other and banded together a lot more. I mean, let’s look at The Olympics, you have over 200 countries that come together to celebrate their athletes and sport, next week is Carnival another time where people from different cultures come together. When these things happen and you see how successful they are it makes me question why are people so easy to tear each other down? Are these events not testaments that we can live in harmony or are people so happy being horrible to each other that they miss that? I may not be where I want to be right now, but generally I’m happy and more importantly – so is my son.
Just remember, the next time you’re horrible to someone or horrible about someone maybe you need to look at yourself and question if that really makes you feel good?
We all have our struggles, but the main thing is to just keep concentrating on the positives, remember it’s okay to cry sometimes or have a bad day – but just keep in mind that your mind set determines your environment. The simplest things like smiling at yourself in the mirror and saying you’re beautiful can change how your whole day could go. Even listening to a favourite song can help.
Whatever you do just keep moving forward and in the words of Dory – “Just keep swimming”.